On: Pegging/Anal Play/Strap on Play

Strap on/Pegging/Anal Play


As I was coming into myself and becoming comfortable with my sensuality, I’ve told myself to try everything once—if I didn’t like it, so be it. However when I became interested in BDSM, I started primarily as a submissive within my private and my professional life. If I were ever challenged about being submissive, I would’ve (politely) shook my head and insist that there wasn’t a dominant side in me. That was the past however...

You see, being a young woman, I was always raised to dot my i’s, cross my legs and to keep my voice soft and soothing. Therefore being conventionally, “hyper feminine” I felt that being dominant or trying domination was beside myself. This was all until a lover of mine came to me

“Darling” he started “I’m a bit ashamed to ask this of you”. I tilt my head in confusion, unsure of whatever it could be.

“You promise you won’t be angry?” He sniffled. It was rare to see him whimpering like that, I was in complete shock.

“Huh? What’s up? What’s wrong?” I questioned him, annoyed he wouldn’t get on with it.

“Have you heard of...pegging?”

I thought I knew the meaning, but honestly I couldn’t have him think I didn’t know. “Sort of...?” I lied.

He logged on online and showed me a few videos but I couldn’t help think, “aren’t I enough already? He wants me to do...that?”

I said I would think about it and scourged the Internet for all I could find regarding the topic.

To be honest, as I thought of myself thoroughly submissive, I had almost completely convinced myself that there were absolutely no way I’d do that. I couldn’t even imagine going to a shop and buying the...equipment, to use on him. But I remembered, I’d try everything once, and stop if it weren’t for me.


“We need to have a talk” I said the next afternoon. “I’d be happy to oblige but I want to make sure it’s enjoyable for the both of us. I’d reckon we should go look for one together.”

My lover and I went on Bondara.co.uk, a website specifically for SM toys and equipment. Kind of like an adult candy store. We decided on one for him, a strap on for me to attach to myself and use. Suddenly I started to look at their wide selection of toys, and decided on an anal beads/butt plug sextoy for myself. “I’ll have a go as well” I thought.


When the box of goodies came in, we made sure we were well prepared for our fun. Lots of thick anal lubricant, check! Condoms, check! Safe word, check!!!


I have to be honest and say I was reluctant at first. That was until I found my footing and rhythm, I soon had gotten into thrusting inside. The base of the strap on rubbed against my clitoris and aroused me simultaneously. It was also quite delightful to see my lover enjoying himself, while vulnerable at my whim. I realised in that moment, I could be feminine but I could be strong and dominating as well. I sensually pleasured him in ways we hadn’t experienced before.


Ultimately, this experience changed me in my professional life as well. I quite enjoy being tied up, gagged, taboo roleplay, havjng my peachy bottom spanked but I also enjoy pegging/anal play with my lovers as well as taking control of them. I suppose, that’s what being a BDSM Switch is all about. The best of both worlds...

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